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“In Japan, sex is translated as ‘relationship in flesh,’” she said, “so I named those boys ‘herbivorous boys’ since they are not interested in flesh.” Typically, “herbivore men” are in their 20s and 30s, and believe that friendship without sex can exist between men and women.
I just want to point out one thing regarding the definition of this term. The term “herbivorous,” does not just pertain to the passivity regarding sex and relationships, but also to any actions and lifestyle that portrays the “masculinity” of the male gender type. It’s not just about sex.
So this is a very popular topic of conversation now in Japan, and it is true, there are so many men who identify with the “herbivorous” characteristics. I guess I’m not too sure how to react to this. It’s a good thing that people have the luxury to make such decision to not work full time, not go out so often, and can have fun alone. The male gender role is not held up against all men, and those men do not have to starve because they are not “masculine.”
On the other hand, I also do think that there are a hand full of people who use the label “herbivorous” to escape from the things that intimidate them. Job searching, asking someone out on a date, going out with friends –the things that herbivorous men avoid, all of these things are time consuming, stressing, and requires one to pull money out of their pockets. As one of the articles said, there were always men with “herbivorous” traits before the term was coined, and I feel like those men were always seeking acceptance from society. And now that the term became popular in the Japanese pop culture, those “herbivorous men” have now molded themselves into the public notion of it, became a herd, and appealing that it is ok to go against both the good and bad aspects of the male gender type.
The unique aspect of this phenomena is not the fact that Japanese men are going against the male gender type. It’s rather the fact that this term has become extremely popular, popular enough that anybody on the streets will know this term, and so many men actually identify with it. Here again, the collectivist roots of the Japanese culture prevails: rather than holding the herbivorous traits as one’s own identity, they have to seek comfort and acceptance by “sharing” that identity with the other herbivorous men. Hence the term became so wide spread, and hence there are so many herbivorous men.
Is this a good or bad thing? I don’t know, and I don’t think it will ever be an argument of good and bad. It’s just the matter of lifestyle. All things work in an equilibrium. What I mean by this is the following three things: (1) those “herbivorous” men and those who aren’t can live their own lives, don’t bother each other, and be at harmony (2) or they can find their own “carnivorous” women to make them and be happy, (3) or those herbivorous men will eventually die out because they will not marry, have sex, and raise kids –it will merely be a glitch in the human history that will eventually be forgotten.